Embracing Natural Sleep Patterns in the First Few Weeks with Your Baby

The first few weeks with a newborn can be both magical and overwhelming. As a holistic sleep consultant, I often encounter parents who are anxious about their baby's sleep patterns. Today, I'd like to share some comforting truths about newborn sleep that might help ease your worries.

First and foremost, remember that responding to your baby's needs is always the right thing to do. Contrary to some outdated advice, you cannot spoil a newborn. When your baby wakes and cries, it's always a good idea to respond. This builds trust and security, which are fundamental for healthy development. It's also important to understand that self-soothing is a developmental process. Newborns aren't capable of self-soothing - this is a skill that develops over time, and it's not something babies can learn in the first few weeks. Your baby needs your help to fall asleep, and that's perfectly normal.

For many families, safe bedsharing / co-sleeping can be a beautiful solution. When done following proper safety guidelines, bedsharing / co-sleeping (see The Lullaby Trust's sleep guidelines here) can benefit the whole family. It can make nighttime feedings easier and help everyone get more rest. However, always ensure you're following safe sleep practices if you choose this option.

While you may have heard about wake windows, it's crucial to remember that these are just guides, not strict rules. Don't panic if your baby doesn't fit perfectly into these timeframes. Every baby is unique, and it's more important to follow your baby's cues. Similarly, understand that baby sleep isn't a straight line of improvement. There will be peaks and troughs over the years. What works one week might not work the next, and that's okay, thats normal.

It's also worth debunking a common myth: formula-fed babies don't necessarily sleep better than breastfed babies. In reality, there's no significant difference. (here's the study if you're interested). In these early weeks, it's very normal for babies to wake every 90 minutes to 2 hours. Their sleep cycles are shorter than adults', and they have small tummies that need frequent refilling. You might also notice that your baby sleeps longer when they're on you - this is completely normal. They find comfort in your warmth and heartbeat. Similarly, it's very common for babies to fall asleep during feeding. Your breasts offer not just food, but comfort and a natural sleep aid - it's like a super power, really!

Understanding baby sleep behaviours can also help ease your mind. If your baby's eyes are closed, rest assured they are sleeping, even if you hear grunts and see movements. These are normal parts of infant sleep cycles. Remember, all sleep is good sleep. Whether it's a short nap or a longer stretch at night, all sleep is beneficial for your baby's development and well-being. Your baby is not trying to manipulate you (they can't do that!) or develop "bad habits." They're simply following their biological needs. By responding to these needs with love and understanding, you're setting the foundation for healthy sleep patterns in the future.

In these precious early weeks, focus on bonding with your baby and getting to know their unique rhythms. Trust your instincts, respond to your baby's cues, and don't hesitate to seek support when you need it. Remember, this phase is temporary, and with time, both you and your baby will find your rhythm. Embrace this special time, knowing that you're providing exactly what your baby needs - your love, comfort, and presence.